5 TIPS TO BUILD STRONGER RELATIONSHIPS
By: Deon Ambsersley, MSW, RSW
Rose Health Clinic’s in-house counselor and health and wellness coach, Deon Ambersley, supports clients by helping them address whatever issues they may be struggling with — this includes how to develop healthy relationships with intimate partners. Here, she lists five tips to help build stronger relationships.
1. MANAGE EXPECTATIONS
Relationships are about give and take — and as much as you may love them, you will not always be on the same page as your partner. Nobody likes to give in, but it is much easier to do so when you are able to manage your expectations, be willing to let go sometimes and see things another way.
2. FOCUS ON POSITIVE COMMUNICATION
Unless you are both telepathic, you will not know the needs and feelings of your partner, unless it is explicitly communicated. While it may be easier to show how we feel, it is much more effective if we express it. Actively work on ways to remove blocks and create room for meaningful dialogue.
3. FOCUS ON YOURSELF
It sounds counterintuitive, but I think we’ve all heard the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” The stronger each partner is, the more they can contribute to the development of a healthy relationship.
4. LEARN ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
As human beings, we are ever-evolving. Who you are today is probably not who you were 10 years ago, and probably won’t be who you are 10 years from now. Just as your needs and wants are constantly changing, so are your partners. Keeping abreast of these changes will help keep your relationship strong and fresh and knowing who they are.
5. NEVER STOP WORKING ON IT
The “It” being the relationship. When we speak of relationships we often think we are speaking of our partner. However, it’s not your partner, but what you and your partner have come together to create. Think of your relationship as something you are nurturing. The more you care for it, the more it will bloom.
Not only are these tips great for building relationships with a significant other, but they translate to other relationships as well. I’ve worked with many clients who’ve improved relationships with family and friends by implementing these simple tools.
~Deon Ambersley, MSW, RSW
Just a few of our favourite inspiring quotes about love — just because.
“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”
— Helen Keller
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
“One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
“Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.”
― Nicole Krauss, The History of Love